Why you need to let go of your SuperHelper identity

Yesterday, I wrote about how a lot of smart humans don't realise that they can be perceived as a threat (link in comments).

I guess this is turning into a series, because here's another misconception that I see a lot in my coaching practice:

The notion that it's a good idea to fix other people's problems aka 'SuperHelper Syndrome'.

I'm talking about a wide range of 'helping' here: from picking up a colleague's slack to offering to start a business with someone who could use your expertise, and everything in between.

Here's the problem.

Even though you probably do things at least three times as fast as other people, your time and energy are just as limited.

And even though it looks like you're helping, you're not.

Not really.

What you're doing is helping people hide problems.

That they have way too much on their plate.
Or that they have a hard time saying 'no'.
Or that they need to learn some business skills, stat.

Your acting as 'SuperHelper' hides underlying chronic issues that, because of your well-meaning but misguided interference, do not get resolved.

It also plays to an unhealthy mechanism of trying to get people to like you for your usefulness, rather than for who you are.

So it's time to hang up that helper cape.

Stop running around like crazy to make sure none of the spinning plates fall to the ground.

Let some of the crash - so the reason they're crashing can be found and resolved.

Learn this - so that other people are allowed to grow and learn too.

And if you'd like some expert help with that book a quick discovery call to learn how I can help you.