Stop going it alone
I sometimes overestimate my problem-solving capabilities.
Let's take my hip as an example. Or, to be specific, my left hip.
A couple of years ago I discovered running.
I went from couch to 5K, 10K, 15K…and my goal was to run a half and then the full marathon of Rotterdam.
But after 18 months of training I started getting hip and knee problems.
I tried to fix them with more core and strength workouts, but it didn’t really help.
The only thing that seemed to help?
Not running.
Just like that, I gave up doing something I loved, something that seriously improved for my mental health and resilience.
Something that put me back into my body instead of being all the way up in my brain.
Fast forward to Covid and me sitting in front of a computer more than ever before.
My hip problems (which never went away completely anyhow) were back with a vengeance.
Stil I resisted getting help.
I thought I could figure it out on my own.
I tried lots of different things to reset my hips, to get more supple and flexible, to create a better posture.
Sometimes I was able to alleviate the pain and stiffness for a while, but it always came back.
Until two weeks ago, when something inside me decided I’d had enough.
I wanted to stop being afraid to move.
And I made an appointment with a physio that came highly recommended.
It was mind-blowing.
She told me that everything I thought was the problem with my hip wasn’t actually the cause at all.
And she was able to explain to me the why and the how, what the problem probably was and how to fix it.
In a one-hour session.
Yes, I’m smart. But there are things I have to leave to the experts.
And I seriously want to slap myself for not getting help five years ago.
Even if you have a brain that’s good at thinking and figuring things out, there are times when you’re much better off reaching out for help.
When you’re in a new job and trying to learn a million things in a month.
When you’re working on a project but feel completely out of your depth and the deadline is getting closer and closer.
When you’re not doing the things you really want to do - and can’t figure out how to start doing them.
Don’t be like me.
Don’t wait five years - or until the deadline is one hour away.
Ask for help - and ask it sooner rather than later.
This weekend, look at the things you’re struggling with.
Things practical.
Things physical.
Things metaphysical.
Ask yourself: who can help me with this?
And go make it happen.
Stop accepting a smaller life because you think you need to be able to figure everything out on your own.
If you’d like my help with this there are two slots opening up mid/late December. Book a discovery call to see if we’re a good fit here:
https://www.coachkramer.org/work-with-me
Have a helpful weekend,
Else